We praise Malcolm, Marcus and Martin and don’t even realize they REALLY lived the life of Jesus by DYING for us!
Things I wish a more experienced Sistah had told me when I was in my 20s.
This good word for the day is spoken from over 20 years of experience, as I am now a woman of a certain age……
But you are: Eager, young, willing to please, fired up to support the ‘movement’ and meet potential mates online or at conscious crew gatherings.
Here are the two different profiles for men in the conscious community:
The Conscious Con-Artist Profile:
*No verifiable income
*Can recite every biblical verse that supports European Patriarchy and feels that a real man doesn’t need a woman’s advice.
*A visionary who sounds like he has a plan to save the world.
*A proponent of polygamy so that he can brag to his card carrying crew members about the number of wives and unkempt youths he has and tells you he is supporting his 1st and 2nd wife who you’ve never spoken with to verify.
*Discourages any questioning of his income or ability to care of you and possible children.
*Discourages any questioning of his master plan to “nation build”.
*A master of emotional manipulation, citing all the advantages black women have had all of these years.
*Always spotlighting the wrongs and inequities black people face while rarely offering , discussing or participating in concrete reality based solutions.
*Hates all Black American women, except you (so long as you are towing the party line) and venerates all women from South America or Africa…as long as they are fully dressed, dark-skinned and have natural hair.
*Spends a lot of time in the FB inboxes/DM’s of sistahs and preaching via his status updates.
*Spends a lot of time arguing and cursing out women on social media about his patriarchal status updates and views.
*Hates his mother but calls all other Black women Earths and Queens.
*lacks a good sense of humour and doesn’t know how to let loose and have fun.
*Discusses black issues and his melanin power 24/7 even though it may be in an inappropriate setting.
*Blames his poor lovemaking skills on black women being too demanding in bed or thinks just having “good dick” is enough.
*Doesn’t nurture and financially support his own children.
*disrespecting other women while in your company.
*Won’t deal with you fully until you fulfill x,y and z citing his own unproven adherence to said guidelines for worthiness.
The Possible, Might Could Consider, Awakened Man Profile:
*Actually has income through his own hustles or is working a day/night job while also pushing his side entrepreneurial hustle
* A proponent of polygamy and has deeply considered the implications and chosen not to take on additional until he is satisfied he can support them all FINANCIALLY AS WELL AS EMOTIONALLY.
*Is supporting his current wife or wives and welcomes to you query them about this fact.
* Asks that his wife choose you first.
*Encourages your checking his businesses, job, side hustles, friends and family (wives)
*Encourages your input on the master plan and encourages you to pursue whatever hustle that fits your talents or supports your choice not to pursue outside hustle, but to raise children and support the family household in other, yet very important ways.
*Realizes that the first nation to build is his family and once that foundation is solid, it will better prepare him to build anything outside of it.
*Emotionally mature and focused on his male runnings and goals; thereby having less time to sit on FB, Instagram or Twitter collecting inbox chicks.
*Seeks a woman’s advice knowing that she has a sixth sense and is a creator and nurturer by nature.
*Innerstands the cultural ills and trauma that face both Black American men AND women and chooses to highlight and create paths for black health, success, wellness and wealth.
*Knows how to enjoy life, let loose, be silly at times, plan dates and do things for you to let you know you are appreciated.
*Studies lovemaking and foreplay as an art and finds different ways on how to pleasure you sexually through study, diet, fitness and discipline.
*Appreciates the work and sacrifices his mother (and hopefully father) made to raise him.
*Proven track record of taking care of his children and other important responsibilities.
*Honors and treat other women well in his everyday life.
*Doesn’t just TALK BUT WALKS the life he preaches.
Prayerfully some young sistah somewhere who is being lured will read this, slow down, and take heed.
There is no rush in these matters… get out of your ‘feelings’ for him and do what’s right for yourself, future youth and future plans.
You can find her at www.leahbayaka.com doing black girl magic and other phenomenal things.
Peace, Power & Prosperity…
Many people will be rushing into the theaters to see fictional white men in tights battle each other for superhero supremacy in the DC comic book universe.
I will be watching as well but that’s not the point of this article. The point of this article is to show that Black men are fighting instead of SUPPORTING and LISTENING to their greatest ally: The Strong Black woman.
When we go into the movie theater we are bound to, at some point in the film, see Superman rescue Lois Lane. Saving Lois is something that is consistent when you watch any Superman film past or present.
Depending on your level of perception, you could say it’s his DUTY. He MUST protect Lois Lane even if it means his own demise.
When you watch the Lois Lane character development over the years, you will notice that Lois usually has a bit of an attitude.
She is resourceful and a go getter. She talks sh*t with the best of them. She is about her business and is pretty fiery and aggressive. She will fearlessly tell a powerful supervillain to kiss her ass.
She is dare I say. ..a lil hood? Has a Black Woman’s attitude of strength and survival no matter the odds?
She is not humble, meek, dainty or reserved. She doesn’t seem like a homebody who wants to just breed children and cater to Clark Kent. She does not wait for Superman to save her and does not knowingly put herself in positions to be saved. She has her own career, makes her own money and is goal oriented and prideful. She is self aware and takes a back seat to no one. She is powerful and formidable on her own. She dates and sleeps with who she wants too,
Most importantly, when Clark Kent or Superman are not strong, she is there to REASSURE HIM of his power, strength, intelligence and bravery. She aids him with wisdom, nurture and love.
When she initially meets Clark Kent she sees him as a weak farm boy because he seems too timid, passive and unorganized. Yet she still helps him navigate metropolis after coming from Smallville, Kansas.
She LIKES Clark Kent but LOVES Superman for his demonstrative strength, power, courage and risk taking ability.
She wants her man to be a Superman in the universe as much as possible.
Lois Lane, based on the characteristics described, is a strong awakened Black Woman in whiteface.
The strong black woman who is awakened or is “conscious” fits all these Lois Lane attributes. Even the woman who has no knowledge of her culture but strives to do right by her man fits this bill.
BUT IS THE BLACKMAN HER SUPERMAN?
As discussed earlier, Superman’s duty is to protect and rescue Lois Lane. Even after he fights Lex Luthor or any other Super Villain anywhere in the galaxy, his PRIMARY purpose is to make sure Lois Lane is safe and sound.
He would let anyone else die before he let’s Lois Lane gets harmed.
Black men, since the onset of the crack epidemic, have not protected black women. I’m sure seeing the black family doing deplorable things with the goal of getting high has damaged our view of each other. However, with the crack era slowly fading away, the view on black women is almost the same as in the 1980’s and 90’s.
Let’s be honest. We call them Thots, Hoes, Chickenheads and bitches in our popular music and day to day conversation. We make music videos that show them as expendable. We value their beauty and bodies but not their worth, wisdom and opinions.
Let’s not forget the cultural “conscious” man who views women as moons, earth’s but NEVER as the universe itself.
Dr. Umar Johnson, who is an intelligent orator that has gained popularity. He, like most good prosperity preachers, called a woman he was sleeping with a “maggot in life” and had this to say about black women’s hair choices in his
hustlers….never being built…i mean…FDMG Academy:
“Unnatural hair will not be accepted on the FDMG campus. All Queens in training (K-12) must adhere to this rule. First infractions will result in a $500 fine to the parent or legal guardian. Your child will be expelled from school upon their second infraction. Unnatural hair includes perm, wig, weave, european hair colors, extensions, sew-ins, straightening comb, etc……” (Excerpt from 2016 Anna Douglass & Amy Garvey RBG Leadership Academy Parent & Princess meeting)”
I’ve heard popular “Black Power”
posers…i mean “teachers” like Sara Suten Seti call a black woman a bitch simply for questioning him. Start at the 00:08:30 mark:
Also, how many black women do you see on the popular (money making out the ass) lecture circuit delivering keynote addresses? I do, however see them serving serving food and vending, with “¾ of cloth” on of course.
Black men have hyper sexulazied a woman’s body to the point that if she shows some skin she gets negatively labeled, abrasively cat called and viewed as Babylonian harlot. Even though indigenous African cultures used nudity in ritual and everyday life, most men with this cultural “conscious” knowledge still expect women to be fully clothed and associate that with being a respectful and honorable women.
After all, “Supermen” can’t control their own lust nowadays. Ain’t that right “King”?
Black men are becoming increasingly more violent, disrespectful and damaging to the black woman. Perhaps because they, Black men are acting more like women themselves than SuperMAN! Superman understands the difference between the sexes and does not respond with emotional pettiness towards women. Neither does Superman ignore women but prioritizes and focuses on his role as protector, provider and lover.
Also, that confusion created by a man adopting “feminine characteristics” is not only unnatural, but is a poor excuse for not getting jobs or providing financially for their women and children. Some even use the “white man/racism holding me down” as an excuse like women aren’t facing the same issues.
Not Superman like.
I’ve heard Black men talk so negatively about a Black Woman’s aggressive attitude (Lois lane has an attitude) to the point of calling Black Women all sorts of bitches and animals. Yet, in the same breath Black men will call themselves Kings and Gods.
Black men on popular “reality” shows treat black women horribly. Even though these shows are scripted the storyline perpetuates the behavior of black women being mistreated by black men. Repetition breeds memory and the more these shows are viewed by impressionable young male minds the more this behavior towards women will be emulated.
Black male fathers are blaming single black mothers for their sons becoming involved in street life, gang activity and having effeminate ways. These same “fathers” who should be the “Superman” of the community are cowards, mostly incarcerated, lack responsibility or are themselves effeminate. Who could ignore that the women have had to play BOTH mommy and daddy and that UNBALANCE has created a tide of low-life behavior.
Fortunately the Black women, our Lois Lane’s, still aim to take the Black man from the Clark Kent stage to Superman level. Most still know that the Black man are “giants” and are willing to love and nurture their man in modern metropolis.
Black men we have to do better. Read this Black men and get ready because Part 2 will explain & decode how Black men are truly Supermen and how we can rescue our Black Lois Lane’s before it’s too late.
Black manhood is not the way it used to be. Black men are getting more feminine as years pass.
With alot of black men dying or incarcerated and reality television stereotypes of black manhood, it would seem as if all hope is lost.
Well, here are some rules that every black man should follow to re-awaken their manhood and regain our glory.
1. Thou shall not say “yasss” , “hunty”, ” throwing shade” or say anything ” gave them life” unless they are gay.
2. Thou shall not be without a checking and savings account.
3. Thou shall not argue with their woman like a woman for he knows a woman’s voice is HER power and HIS power is in silent action.
4. Thou shall not neglect education and the acquisition of self-knowledge.
5. Thou shall not make excuses for not making currency in either an entrepreneurial endeavor or hired labor.
6. Thou shall not look down upon and demonize black youth. One should encourage, guide and uplift.
7. Thou shall not marry and take the wife’s last name.
8. Thou shall not be an unbalanced feminist and minimize the man’s role in society and family.
9. Thou shall not bleach or lighten their skin.
10. Thou shall not perm, blond or relax their hair.
11. Thou shall not practice Afrocentrism in white owned institutions of employment. Soldiers wear camouflage for a reason.
12. Thou shall not say any female of another race is better than the black woman.
13. Thou shall not support any cause/politician/group or religion that doesn’t support, honor and fight for the human rights of black people
14. Thou shall not adopt terminology associated with LGBT culture unless one is gay or lesbian. See #1.
15. Thou shall not watch ratchet reality shows unless it’s to critique, analyze and educate
16. Thou shall not watch or endorse media that portray us in an unfavorable way
17. Thou shall not trust the television news media, magazines, newspapers, TMZ, Mediatakeout, Worldstarhiphop or any other website that promotes lies, false imagery , fear and the infighting and overall destruction of our people.
18. Thou shall not think they are conscious, awakened or have Knowledge of Self because they have African clothing, jewelry, medallions, tattoos, books, knowledge of history and black culture etc.
19. Thou shall not seek approval from white culture for black character and creativity, no matter how it’s viewed by white culture
20. Thou shall not wear clothing specifically made for women like dresses, skirts, blouses, bras, panties etc.
21. Thou shall not call white people niggas unless one expects to be called a nigger by the same white person
22. Thou shall not neglect their health, diet or physical fitness
22. Thou shall not walk by their neighbors without saying hello when you pass them
23. Thou shall not demonize psychotherapy and those who use it to heal
24. Thou shall not physically, emotionally or mentally abuse women
25. Thou shall not neglect their spirituality and daily personal growth
26. Thou shalt not fall victim to cults of personality and shall critically analyze all leaders and movements
27. Thou shalt not think they know it all when new things are discovered daily
28. Thou shall not think the ghetto is a place of black pride
29. Thou shall not look down on so-called pagan spiritual divination systems which originated in Africa
30. Thou shall not neglect or abandon their children regardless of the children’s mothers behavior or attitude
31. Thou shall not be one who doesn’t own at least one pair of dress shoes and a suit and tie.
32. Thou shall not be without a passport
33. Thou shall not depend on the system of white privilege to employ you, feed you, create jobs for you, give you justice in his courts, create institutions for your benefit, educate you or your family, give you shelter, show you Gods way, support your dreams, heal you, love you or stop trying to destroy you overall by any means necessary.
Let’s get back to greatness!
In life, regardless of your upbringing or social status, there are two very important lifestyle choices one must make. You can choose to sit on the sidelines and watch things happen around you or you can act and be the one to change and make things happen around you.
You can be a spectator or a go getter.
You can fight for victory or accept victim hood. Fight or flight.
Unfortunately, it seems like alot of Black Americans have chosen victim hood as an acceptable lifestyle. Not all, but a good enough amount to make it a social issue. I’ll shortly explain why i have this perspective:
America is an ugly yet beautiful place.
It is filled with some of the most amazing success stories known to man and also home to some of the greatest atrocities committed by mankind. America will give your grandmother social security benefits and at the same time kick her out of a rent stabilized building so the landlord can build overpriced condos. Life isn’t fair and neither is America. In fact, globally America is the big bad bully coming to take your woman, her self esteem, your oil, your resources, your culture, your currency, kill and/or incarcerate your strong men and place American television programming in your country so they can put you through the psychological mind fuck of reality television, bad food, consumerism and perceived American perfection. The U.S.A. is the wild wild west and we, the taxpayers, provide these capitalist cowboys their guns and bullets whether we like it, realize it, or not.
Still, America has the one thing everyone worldwide wants and not every country provides which is this:
The opportunity to live whatever lifestyle you choose…. as long as you can finance it.
What? You thought i was going to type life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness? Ha!! That’s American propaganda folks!
Lets examine why its propaganda..
Life: Monsanto based foods will kill you. Lets not mention the health drawbacks of a fast food diet. Toxic waste emissions making the ozone deplete. Global warming. High rent. Terrorism via American foreign policy, etc.
Liberty: America has the highest prison population in the world. Most of them black and Latino. More and more are children being tried as adults. Nuff said.
The pursuit of happiness: Capitalism is extremely self serving and exploitative. It will place you in a subprime mortgage knowing its going to quadruple and not inform you. Capitalism is perpetual buyer beware. This keeps people on edge and unhappy.
People from all walks of life and ethnic backgrounds overcome insurmountable odds and are triumphant in spite of them. People come off of train, plane, boat and illegally cross borders all for the promise of the American dream. They come into this country and oftentimes do menial labor while attending school or saving money to invest in their dreams.
They then open stores, become doctors and lawyers, build good credit, practice cooperative economics, buy and sell to another, organize and build institutions and maintain their cultural integrity for the most part while doing so.
In short, they come to America to win and struggle and sacrifice to do so. Nothing stops them.
Africans and people from the Caribbean often come into this country with little usually and oftentimes cant even speak the English language correctly . Yet they still become business owners, builders and educated professionals.
What’s stopping black people born in America from succeeding in the country everyone wants to come to?
Two simple reasons: American cultural hubris and the highly promoted images of black limitation, criminality, injustice and racism in American media that blacks in America accept as truth.
American cultural hubris is the cultural expectation that you will be taken care of by the American system. Black people have taken on this hubris in the same way White Americans have, without realizing that America is not, nor was not built to service black needs or black justice. It was built for Whites to be Kings and for blacks to be servants.The recent cases of police brutality and police assassinations on young black men are opening many eyes to this fact. In fact, a white criminal is more likely to get a job than a black male with no criminal record. Yet, black Americans still feel victimized when these things are discovered rather than fight tooth and nail to build their own institutions to service their needs like the Jews, Amish, Asian and even the African and Caribbean communities.
American hubris also leads many to think that the black millionaire or billionaire is obligated to save them or “give back to the hood”. Also, that a Black leader will “fix it” and somehow miraculously take care of everything wrong with black America. The other option is to just wait for Jesus and the rapture and receive their heaven upon death. Thinking that someone or something else will take care of the problem while neglecting one’s own remedies for the community. We need to seek ways individually and collectively to contribute in saving the present and future generations instead of waiting for a savior to come and bring us to the promised land.
Black limitation is also constantly pushed through american media as almost a fact of life. Black men are shown as criminals on every 10 pm newscast daily and black violence is a mainstay while other cultures violent acts get little to no airplay. If you turn on BET during the day, you’ll see repeated payday loan and debt consolidation commercials, as if black people accept being in debt as their destiny. We can also go into the cop shows that reinforce black criminality and police violence as somehow part of black peoples birthright. Look at the lack of black success stories and black entrepreneurs, that are not either sports figures or entertainers, that are showcased via the media. The blatant injustice against blacks that the courts sanction and rationalize. Reality shows showcasing our worst behavior worldwide hardly help either.
BUT…Blacks from other countries don’t complain. They come here work hard and organize among their culture to create stores and institutions for their well being. They don’t subscribe to victim hood. They subscribe to a by any means necessary mentality. The same one Malcolm X and the N.O.I. espoused decades ago and is still relevant.
Blacks in America need to realize they are not wanted in America and certainly not beloved by the powers that run it. The descendants of slaves are not meant to rise and become kings. Power is never freely given but taken. We need to become self sufficient, self aware, culturally educated and empowered and realize that we have to take care of themselves, as our own separate cultural entity with unique issues, before blaming the government, popular media, successful blacks, schools and other entities for their underclass status in America.
American Blacks need an independent do for self attitude that is focused less on complaining and bitching about what “they” are doing to us and more on organizing and fixing the issues that stop the “they” from doing it to us in the first place. The focus should always be the solution and not the problem itself.
The focus should never be on how you are being victimized but how to gain victory.
If a black man or woman from any other part of the world can come here and succeed, there is nothing stopping us who were born here in the US who have opportunities that some blacks in the Diaspora would kill for.
Break the curse. Educate yourself and your family. Participate in local politics. Sacrifice some fun and fuckery to build. Mentor a child in your own family first or a child in your neighborhood that could use advice. Start a business. Attend a class. Watch less television. Tap into your own gifts. Create. Outwork other cultures. Move from victim to victory. Our ancestors died and struggled for this.
Peace, Power and Prosperity….