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Why Black Women need to date White men. The Serena Williams logic.

The great American Tennis Player, Serena Williams recently released a statement and confirmed that she had a baby by Alexis Ohanian, American Internet entrepreneur and investor, who is co-founder and executive chairman of the social news website Reddit. He also so happens to be a Caucasian male.

With Serena Williams being the adoration of Black America and in particular black males, she pissed off a good amount of her black fan base with her choice of a lover.

Many black men who lusted after her on television and computer screens for years – decades even – were disappointed, blindsided and some were even angry. After all, Black America has been following and supporting the beautiful 23 time Grand Slam champion around since childhood, along with her sister Venus. We supported elevated and lauded her with vigor, pride and enthusiasm.

We, Black Male America, felt like we owned a piece of Serena after rooting for her to win all those tennis matches. Black men (even myself) would tune in regularly to watch her sexy, short tennis skirts, her glistening sweaty chocolate skin and of course : THE BOOT-AY.

Sometimes we didn’t even care about the tennis match. I know I didn’t. As long as that skirt went up a serve or two ……..sheeeeeeeeeet…… it was all love (pun intended).

Then in 2015, she started seriously dating what happened to be a white Guy.
And all hell broke loose on social media, barber shops and in urban areas everywhere.

How dare she betray us by going with a cracker? the oppressor? D’wight man?

She went from a Queen to a sellout. From a representative of the race to race traitor. From a boss to a bitch. From lusted for to loathed. From vixen to villain. All this vitriol in ONE day. By mostly Black men.

Now this article isn’t really about Serena necessarily.
It’s about black women and the way alot of black men perceive and treat them. It’s also about how alot of Black women perceive and BELIEVE they will be treated by white men.

Let’s talk about it…….

First and foremost, congratulations to Serena and her and her family. Children are a beautiful thing to have and raise and any one who hates that because of the racial aspect of the child is scum. Plain and simple.

However there is a myth, amongst lots of lonely black women recently, that seem to think that finding and dating a caucasian man is the cure for their difficulty when dealing with black men in relationships.

You’ve seen this online:

Im here to present a reality that contradicts that fantasy.

Now let’s look at some examples of interracial relationships where black women have chosen white men.

Robin Thicke and Paula Patton:

According to a very detailed story on EOnline , Robin Thicke and Paula Patton met each other as high school sweethearts. Paula, who was then the president of their high schools black student union ironically, hooked up with Robin after he sang Jodeci’s forever my lady to her in his father’s home. Robin’s Father is TV ‘s Dating Game host Alan Thicke.

It seemed that they had a great marriage until Robin Thicke blew up with the song “Lost Without You” in 2006 and then “Blurred Lines” in 2013

In Robin’s own words for the breakup:
“We’re apart because we just couldn’t be together anymore for a while,” he said. “There’s a hundred different reasons, there isn’t just one. There’s a long list… I changed, and I got a little too selfish, a little too greedy and little too full of myself.”

What he didn’t say was that he was on drugs, PHYSICALLY ABUSING Paula Patton AND his own son. To top it off he lost custody of his son due to this.

Now his girlfriend is a very white woman named April Love. They are expecting a child in August.

Looks like he blew up, started BEATING the breaks off his black wife and child and left his black wife for a white girl. The irony. Kanye said black men do that. And even though Kanye did it himself, leaving black and going white was supposed to be exclusively nigga sh*t.


Halle Berry & Gabriel Aubry:

Halle Berry married Gabriel in 2007 and their marriage ended in 2010.

According to the Daily Mail, Gabriel filed for spousal support and full custody of their daughter in 2010 and won getting 16k a month.

As Halle Berry went to court to reduce that huge support amount, she was hit with a racial epithet( called a nigger) according to court documents and accused Gabriel of straightening and dyeing their daughter’s hair so she would look less black and citing it could cause psychological damage to their then 6-year-old. She even brought in scientific evidence to prove that he was straightening and dying her hair

Damn. 16k a month in child support though. Sounds like legal pimping to me and very strategic planning. Not to mention the self hate he was instilling on their daughter.

I thought only black men pimped and dogged their women. This seems far worse.


Tiki Branch, Co Owner of “Miss Jessie’s” hair products and boyfriend Anthony Spadafora:

First of all Rest in peace to Miss Branch. She committed suicide. I’ll let Tiki’s sister tell ya’ll what happened according to what she said in this New York Post article:

“Titi, 45, was under Spadafora’s Svengali-like spell, Miko claims in Manhattan Supreme Court papers, saying he isolated her from her family, manipulated her and treated her like a human ATM.

Titi even changed the beneficiary of her $2 million in life insurance policies from her sister to Spadafora — because of his “undue influence,” Miko claims.

“My sister’s death has been a devastating blow,” she told The Post. “It was only after Titi’s death that we learned more about what she’d been going through and how her affairs were being managed.”

Spadafora “wielded exceptional control over [her] while fully aware that her mental health was severely compromised,” the sister claims, referring to Titi’s “disabling” depression.

In just two years Spadafora, 43, managed to “extract” hundreds of thousands of dollars from Titi to launch his own beard-care business, Maestro’s Classics; $420,000 to buy and renovate a Pennsylvania house; and a $135,000 interest-free loan.

“In exchange, [she] received nothing,” Miko charged.

Titi was ready to kick Spadafora to the curb last year when she found out he sexually propositioned her trainer, but he knew how to keep her in line, Miko alleges in court papers.

Spadafora “took extreme measures to stop her . . . sending compromising photographs that he had taken of her,” the sister claims.

Within days of her death, he peppered her grieving parents with emails claiming he had a new will drafted by Titi giving him 50 percent of everything, according to the suit.

He also took his girlfriend’s computer and refused to return it to her family members unless they forked over Titi’s expensive Cartier bracelet, according to court papers.

When they did, the computer he returned had its drive scrubbed clean, the Branch family claims.”



There are of course more examples like this and I’m not highlighting these to say I’m against interracial relationships. I firmly believe that people should find love where it best serves them and if it happens to be a person of another then race so be it. People need love and it’s an important aspect in enjoying the quality of life.

I wish Serena Williams and her new family success and i hope it works out for her and her husband. I do not wish them any ill will whatsoever and I’ve never been a hater.

I’ve highlighted these examples to show that white isn’t always right and that men are men regardless of their lack of melanin. Its character, morals and actions that define someone not necessarily your skin tone.

We are nothing but the energy we choose to project in the world.

You can have all the “magical” melanin in the world. If you don’t use your gifts for spiritual and mental development but a caucasian with limited melanin focuses and dedicates his life to the aforementioned development, the caucasian wins.

Personally, i will always love, be with and date and eventually marry a  black woman. Am i perfect? No. Have i myself always been great to black women? No.
I can only hope my apologies and growth have made me better. Life’s about progression beloved.

I understand why many black women want to date outside their race, even though they may truly love, adore and genuinely desire to be mated with their black men.

Serena dated Common, Drake, and other Black men and she didn’t choose one. We don’t know the details of her reasons for not choosing them and the reasons may or may not be valid-but the white boy got the ring. That’s the reality.

Oh and be clear. He may have proposed but the woman always does the choosing.


If you’re an honest black american, you can easily see that a vast majority of Black men aren’t living up to the basic standards of manhood. And even though they aren’t, black women continue to support, love and hold down black men.

And before you tell me about how the white man did this to us, recite passages of the Willie lynch letter and tell me about how the welfare system disenfranchised us please realise i don’t care about that shit. None of your excuses. Fuck that.

How hard is it to open the door/car door for a woman?
How hard is it to kiss your woman/hold her hand/squeeze her booty/hug her in public?
How hard is it to actually date and plan a date for a Nubian queen?
How hard is it to be the breadwinner and not go 50/50 on the bills but pay the majority of the bills? And if she is the breadwinner currently, at least strive to meet and exceed her by developing and honing skills?
How hard is it to constantly complement your woman and make her feel special?
How hard is it to let her be free in her respectful sexual expression and provide safe spaces for her to express her sexuality?
How hard is to elevate your woman and make her feel like a Queen by complimenting her consistently?

You know who IS doing this for black women?
i see it with my own eyes daily. A lot of while male PDA on black women.  Mostly the ones with the most melanin also.

The funny thing is they are tapping into what black men should be and getting better because of it.

I could get real esoteric and talk about how black pussy is a stargate and if you stroke that vagina with visions of your hopes dreams and desires they will manifest in tangible reality eventually. I could say that the reason sex and sexuality is demonized by the church is so you don’t access that stargate as much as possible. I could say that sex is the highest form of creation and the black woman and child is worshipped as the black madonna and child in the Vatican which is really hiding Auset and Heru in kemetic lore and that the popes take this energy of the black madonna to subjugate the populace……but i digress.

(if you are interested, i do have an e-book on sex magick that i will email you for a paypal donation of only 8 dollars. I literally went from making 12.50 an hour 3 years ago to  40k last year almost 100k this year using these techniques .Screenshot or take a pic of your donation and e-mail me at Robwatson7@gmail.com “Sex E-Book” in the subject line.)

Also, cop and Read Adika Butler’s Book “Treasures of Darkness” for more clarity on this at www.mindglowbooks.com.


See my articles on Victimhood and Why Melanin isn’t enough if you need to understand why there is no excuse for this Black Male behavior on the cusp of the information age.

Black men have to start trying to conquer the world again like the Moors and Hannibal of Carthage once did. We have to once again be aggressive and HIGHLY COMPETITIVE in the areas of commerce, spirituality and self-development, self-healing and overall growth.

Black men have taken on aspects of white male patriarchy and capitalism…without the COMPETITIVE mindset of the capitalist. Facts: We aren’t competing with white men aggressively enough in areas of power and business but we are aggressive when it comes to our own women.

Black men (and women) have been placed in unnatural conditions in a foreign land with no tools to reflect and nurture their inner greatness. From the media to the school textbook, he has been conditioned to be a thug who is a cancer in his own community or a black male in white face living to serve his former slave master.

In inner cities across America, the thug – through the media and schooling – is the subconsciously placed ideal for the black male to achieve his manhood. To survive as a thug amongst thugs, one must put on a mask of perpetual toughness as to not show his feelings to the world. Feelings are a weakness in the urban jungle. This leads to an inner castration of the divine within and replaces it with a soulless empty shell: cold, callous and frozen in development. Often time this shell becomes filled with drugs and alcohol and other nefarious coping mechanisms. Masks to hide the pain of  a black man losing his soul.

Rapsody does a great job breaking down black “Pain” in this video. She analyzes the dynamics of black male/female pain like an urban psychologist:

(Sidebar: It also doesn’t help that this thug ideal becomes the avatar of the black male in the eyes of a lot of impressionable black women as well, making the black male who does not display these characteristics lower on the sex selection totem pole further perpetuating these behaviors among post pubescent young men.  Some women even create and mold their sons from youth in this way to make sure they can survive in toxic urban and impoverished environments….also because they think its cute)

You need emotions to grow. You need to feel and face your pains to rise above them. This unfeeling is what’s plaguing black men, his community and ultimately what’s causing this mistreatment of his woman. He is trying to get his soul back through sex. He is trying to fuck his way back to the divinity within.

We want to dominate our women through sexual conquest but not conquer the world. We are conditioned to be the black bucks having multiple baby mothers and we are creating illegitimate un-attended progeny that is destined to work to build up the white world through incarceration and slave wage labor. We are unapologetically comfortable collectively doing less and expecting more. We are living in William Lynch’s dream.

We take pride in this shit. This has to end. We gotta grow up and glow up. We need our black women.

One of the reason i love James St. Patrick’s character in the series Power, is that he is there to compete with white men in a legit business and leave the dope game alone. He doesn’t want or let them control him. And regardless of his infidelity, he demonstrates his love for the women in his life. Art can imitate life. You choose.

Also stop bitching and complaining about the white man. Steal your culture, art, science and spirituality back from the white man. He stole it from you and built a world of success from it. Steal it back!



The black woman must be elevated. We have to put her back on her pedestal as the god she is. Once we do the black community worldwide will begin to transform. Our ancient matrilineal empires like Babylon (Ishtar), Kemet (Auset), Sumerian (Innana) and all its pomp, spiritual and military power and regalia prove this.

The pope is still winning too. That Black madonna worship. Kiss her and talk to her nice.

Even now, if you do a deep dive into our current pop culture you can see women taking back their power from music to politics to sex.

This article isn’t about simpin. It’s about Black men losing the world’s greatest resource: the black woman.
It’s also about the fact that you can go date white men and swirl as a black woman and still get gone dirty af.

Ask a white woman how great her marriage is. Then listen and see if the relationship problems are similar if not worse. The grass ALWAYS looks greener on the other side.

Let’s grow and glow. Lets heal each other by healing ourselves first. Peace, Power and Prosperity.


listen to Sammy break down how to be better:

Why I don’t give a damn about #Altonsterling, #Philando Castille or #Blacklivesmatter

Before I go into this article I would like to honor the spirit of Alton Sterling and Philando with a candle and a moment of silence……
Now, here is why I don’t care……

You see, I’ve seen this scenario play out since the proliferation of cellular phone recordings over the last few years. In fact, black death is becoming  prime time media and water cooler fodder to be digested for about two weeks then discarded till the next shooting or news of a zoo gorilla caring for a precocious black kid.
It goes like this…
Black male/female does misdemeanor crime or minor questionable activity. White male/cop shoots or kills them in cold blood.
Conservative media says that’s what he gets for breaking the law/fighting back. Liberals call for peace, marches and prayer rallies. #blacklivesmatter hash tags take over the Internet. The victim’s name get hashtagged. Protests/Riots take place. People get arrested.
2 week conversation. Story dies down. Months go by. People move on.
After time passes and the anger and protests die down, police officer/murderer goes to court. Insert Al Sharpton.
NOT GUILTY is the verdict. The officers get rich from Gofundme.
The family gets a little over a million dollars in a city settlement agreement (sometimes).
Repeat cycle…..repeat cycle….repeat cycle….

I read a brief article and consciously decided not to watch any footage of the Alton Sterling shooting. I will not read any more articles about it. I will not watch the news ( which I barely do anyway). My social media interactions will be curated.  I will not take on this pain. I will not hash tag or wear a hoodie again (R.I. P Trayvon)
It sucks at my soul. I hate seeing black people get murdered. Most importantly I hate Black folks cowardly responses.
Here are the most popular.

#Blacklivesmatter is nothing more than a social media hashtag till popular news media moves on. Name me one substantial thing the black lives matter pseudo-movement has done to stop police brutality. Name me one thing it has done to stop killings in Chicago. Name me one inner city school that has improved by it. It may raise awareness but knowledge without action is stupidity.
I haven’t seen one law change or one innocent person receive justice due to the “movement” that moves nothing.
It’s a cute logo though.
All this was done and Trayvon Martin’s killer is walking around AND profiting from his death. I guess the gods old and new don’t love us black folk.
I used to bitch and complain myself till I realized that my life is my own and only i can change my life and environment. I realized i can beat the devil but i had to beat the one within FIRST, then spread that power i gained outward.
We complain too much about what the white man is doing to us. We talk too much about his perceived power. We men talk about him like he is a boogeyman. Unbeatable. Untouchable. The white man is a genius for making us feel that way. We shook. Scared to death and scared to look.
The white man is doing what he has been doing for 400 years. Hell, since he repurposed gunpowder. He is great at keeping a foot on your black ass neck, using you for financial gain and murdering you. This is what warfare is about. The whiteman may be the ultimate warrior.
We say “Let go and let god”
You don’t know how often I see posts on social media about the “evil” whiteman on …HIS…white owned and police monitored Facebook and Instagram.

Here is a simple question to my people:
Are we out thinking white men? Are we using some of their knowledge to become better?  Are we organizing, Are we stealing part of their legacy like they did ours? Do we see the white man as our competitors? Do we wanna compete? Do we really think the whiteman out thinks us on every level? Or are we whining and complaining like bitches???
Dr Claude has an answer:
Do we also utilize “silent weapons for quiet wars“? Do we produce our own propaganda? Do we have think tanks? Are we proactive? Are we really at war with them? Or do we get emotional and reactionary when the news tells us too?
Jill Scott has an answer.

The Dallas Shooter(s) and Black men:
Whether you think the Micah X Johnson event was real or it was fake doesn’t matter. It is irrelevant.
What matters is that Micah X (the govt/false flag etc for you conspiracy nuts) did more for the black family then Trayvon’s Martin’s dad did for his son, more than Mike Browns dad did for his son and the list goes on.
Tamir Rice and Akai Gurley don’t have men in their family??
Eric Garners wife is a lil hood. So was he.
No thugs in the family?
Black men believe in Jesus and other crucified saviors so much and are quick to go to churches and temples to hear how their “saviors” SACRIFICED THEIR LIVES for their sins for the whole human family but they wont dare die for their OWN  blood families. The irony.
We praise Malcolm, Marcus and Martin and don’t even realize they REALLY lived the life of Jesus by DYING for us!
In closing,
Until INJUSTICE is met with INJUSTICE by the men in the families of these victims, I will not take on their pain or trauma.
I refuse.
If their own fathers, uncles, and cousins aren’t willing to die for their own kin, I won’t cry or stress for them either.  If the men in these families won’t stand up, I’m not standing up or being emotional for them either. 
I CAN’t care about them because black men don’t care enough. We aren’t leading enough. We aren’t strategic enough. We aren’t courageous, proactive or bold enough. 
I empathize and I’m sympathetic but I will not take on the pain, trauma, stress and confusion of another criminal police shooting that will not lead to justice. It’s bad for my spirit. It kills my courage.
We’d rather talk about black women’s hair, Empire, how they behave, shame their bodies and call them bitches in our music and conversation. We seem to be more viscous online then in real life. We like safe rebellion like profile pics and meme. We like wearing purses and midriff shirts. 
But…I think the skirts are starting to fit better on black men. The tight pants are reflective of our state of being. The effeminate attitudes are the by products of our collective failings. 
Black lives don’t really matter to black men nowadays. We are becoming more lost, cowardly and underappreciated by the year day.
This is why I don’t care. By August, you’ll be over it. Sad but true. Maybe sooner.
You say your Kings, God’s, And Divine right?
Well … you will keep getting sacrificed for the world to see while the universe screams out “SHOW ME !!!
We didn’t learn from Trayvon. We didn’t.
The best thing to do is get a friend from every race and ethnicity and utilize them, their knowledge, perspective and resources to get ahead.  The best thing a black man can do is get a good, sharp business minded woman on his side, stfu and listen. More on that another time…
Niggas are scared of revolution. 
Peace, power & prosperity.
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Dating While #Woke – What to look out for

Since the deaths of Trayvon Martin, Tamir Rice, Freddy Gray and Michael Brown, many black men and women are awakening to the uniqueness of their experience here in America and the whole African diaspora.
This is causing them to seek the answers to the why, when and how of things not only in America , but also those of ancestral past . They want to recreate the culture their ancestors lived and duplicate its customs.
They want to worship their ancient spiritual gods and goddesses. They want to dress like their ancestors. They want to eat like them.
They want to date others that are like-minded and on a similar path.
This is the path into the black conscious community dating pool.  Looking for a mate to share your path and newfound awareness.
However, like any community, there are those who are sincere and those who are faking and fronting. Egomaniacs. Cowards.  Wolves in sheep’s clothing. The personification of the Pharisees of Biblical lore.  
Black Women, more than any of us, have to be especially guarded when going in the black conscious community.
Wolves in sheep’s clothing that have beautiful words of wisdom and enlightenment to speak and are dressed in Afrocentric  garments to attract and then set a trap for you.  Some want to exploit you sexually, financially and emotionally with no regard for you, your children or well-being.
These are not the sincere seekers in the conscious community but what is now being called Hotep ni**as.
Not to be confused with this legend:
For those women who are new in the community,  My friend Leah Bayaka has a guide for you. I added a little here and there but these are her thoughts and words from her years of experience dealing with men in the community: 

Things I wish a more experienced Sistah had told me when I was in my 20s.

This good word for the day is spoken from over 20 years of experience, as I am now a woman of a certain age……

But you are: Eager, young, willing to please, fired up to support the ‘movement’ and meet potential mates online or at conscious crew gatherings.


Here are the two different profiles for men in the conscious community:

The Conscious Con-Artist Profile:

*No verifiable income

*Can recite every biblical verse that supports European Patriarchy and feels that a real man doesn’t need a woman’s advice.


*A visionary who sounds like he has a plan to save the world.

*A proponent of polygamy so that he can brag to his card carrying crew members about the number of wives and unkempt youths he has and tells you he is supporting his 1st and 2nd wife who you’ve never spoken with to verify. 

*Discourages any questioning of his income or ability to care of you and possible children.

*Discourages any questioning of his master plan to “nation build”.

*A master of emotional manipulation, citing all the advantages black women have had all of these years.

*Always spotlighting the wrongs and inequities black people face while rarely offering , discussing or participating in concrete reality based solutions.


*Hates all Black American women, except you (so long as you are towing the party line) and venerates all women from South America or Africa…as long as they are fully dressed, dark-skinned and have natural hair.

*Spends a lot of time in the FB inboxes/DM’s of sistahs and preaching via his status updates.

*Spends a lot of time arguing and cursing out women on social media about his patriarchal status updates and views.

*Hates his mother but calls all other Black women Earths and Queens.

*lacks a good sense of humour and doesn’t know how to let loose and have fun.

*Discusses black issues and his melanin power 24/7 even though it may be in an inappropriate setting.

*Blames his poor lovemaking skills on black women being too demanding in bed or thinks just having “good dick” is enough.

*Doesn’t nurture and financially support his own children.

*disrespecting other women while in your company.

*Won’t deal with you fully until you fulfill x,y and z citing his own unproven adherence to said guidelines for worthiness.


The Possible, Might Could Consider, Awakened Man Profile:

*Actually has income through his own hustles or is working a day/night job while also pushing his side entrepreneurial hustle

* A proponent  of polygamy and has deeply considered the implications and chosen not to take on additional until he is satisfied he can support them all FINANCIALLY AS WELL AS EMOTIONALLY.

*Is supporting his current wife or wives and welcomes to you query them about this fact.

* Asks that his wife choose you first.

*Encourages your checking his businesses, job, side hustles, friends and family (wives)

*Encourages your input on the master plan and encourages you to pursue whatever hustle that fits your talents or supports your choice not to pursue outside hustle, but to raise children and support the family household in other, yet very important ways. 

*Realizes that the first nation to build is his family and once that foundation is solid, it will better prepare him to build anything outside of it.

*Emotionally mature and focused on his male runnings and goals; thereby having less time to sit on FB, Instagram or Twitter collecting inbox chicks.

*Seeks a woman’s advice knowing that she has a sixth sense and is a creator and nurturer by nature.

*Innerstands the cultural ills and trauma that face both Black American men AND women and chooses to highlight and create paths for black health, success, wellness and wealth.

*Knows how to enjoy life, let loose, be silly at times, plan dates and do things for you to let you know you are appreciated.

*Studies lovemaking and foreplay as an art and finds different ways on how to pleasure you sexually through study, diet, fitness and discipline.

*Appreciates the work and sacrifices his mother (and hopefully father) made to raise him.

*Proven track record of taking care of his children and other important responsibilities.

*Honors and treat other women well in his everyday life.

*Doesn’t just TALK BUT WALKS the life he preaches.


Prayerfully some young sistah somewhere who is being lured will read this, slow down, and take heed. 

There is no rush in these matters… get out of your ‘feelings’ for him and do what’s right for yourself, future youth and future plans.

Much Love,

Leah Bayaka



You can find her at www.leahbayaka.com doing black girl magic and other phenomenal things.


Peace, Power & Prosperity…